The date’s going perfectly, but all of a sudden something goes wrong and she’s gone cold.
Ever been there? Well, you might have pulled the trigger button accidentally.
I’ll just tell you what you need to know to make sure you never find yourself in the middle of a girl’s turn off zone!
1. Being Too Full Of Yourself?
Ever talk about how good you are? or unleash your knowledge unnecessarily? or act like you know-it-all?
Some guys think they have it all. And at some point, all the attention and the smothering from their parents and buddies make them assume they own the world and know about all the things. At times, they talk incessantly about their own glorious deeds and glamorous histories – ” I was top in my school and my scores will never be A, my aim was always a Dist “. or always converse back with ” I already knew about it”.
Most ladies consider this type of guy as ” Proud and Pompous”. Women like a confident man, there’s no doubt about it, but there’s a fine line difference between being confident and proud.
Believe it or not, most guys believe they’re “Confident” instead of being “Proud and Pompous”. It’s actually a good thing for self-encouragement and could lift their self-esteem, but to certain point, they have mislead themselves in some ways.
If you’re not interested with the girl, because she’s not as into you as you are into yourself, then let her go and surely you will find someone who exudes the same cockiness you do. However, odds are you will find them annoying because all they do is talk about their achievement.
Nevertheless, If you’re interested with the girl, always remember to be humble and have some humility. At least, you could still get back in a girl’s good books.
2. Insecure personalities
Are you happy of being who you are? Do you think you make for great company?
One of the biggest turn off for women is a guy who’s insecure about himself. If you’re not confident about yourself or are feeling nervous, trust me, it shows. This is one of the biggest reasons why guys get spurned on a date.
If you aren’t happy being who you are, what are the odds that the girl you’re with would like your company? Some guys have a great positive aura around themselves and some guys are just plain nervous and scared. Trust me, when you get too tense up, you will not be in your good form. It will be hard to impress the lady that you are targeting.
Hence, It’s time to change your behavior if you always behave in this way. Or lose the girl!
3. Talkative Yet Boring Guy
Able to talk to anybody but yet not being entertained? or do you only hear your voice most of the time?
All girls have experienced this at some point in their lives. We’ve all had to sit next to a guy, and his conversations were way so long and boring that you would rather jump off a cliff. A woman has voiced ” There is nothing worse than going on a date with a man who doesn’t listen to you, talk most of the time. And when I’m speaking, he’s not attentive and seem not interested with what I’m sharing…eh … but when he speaks, he expects me to response with his topic. What’s that?”
It may be football fever, video game or anything else. But going on about it when you’re on a date is a huge turn off, unless she’s very much into the same activity. But if she doesn’t like your favorite team or doesn’t share your interests, stop trying to rouse her interest by going on talking about it. It’s just bored or annoyed her!
To avoid being a guy in this cliché, work your conversation skill on what your date wants to talk about. If you see her looking around while you’re talking, it’s time to change your conversation topic.
If you’re not interested with what she’s sharing, try not to interrupt her or display uninterested. After all, her concerns is often about the way you’ve responded to her (It doesn’t matter what is the topic, just make sure that you give her enough attention and listen to her).The key into a girl’s pants is to get her to do most of the talking and to get her sharing her emotions with you. It’s only when a woman shares things with you, that she’s feels a connection and a powerful bond between the two of you is building.
4. Narcissist
When your guy friends or buddy behaving more feminine than your girlfriend… something wrong with him, am I right?
Now we have the mirror cracking good looking boy. Any guy who spends more time in front of the mirror than his own girlfriend is a huge turn off. But we’re not stopping there. If you’re having dinner with your date, and the waiter accidentally spills a bit of juice on your silk shirt, wipe it away like a man. Don’t whine about how your silk shirt is ruined and behave like a drama queen. [Read: How to be a great date]
In the world of dating, a narcissistic guy is one who’s overly bothered about his own things like his cell phone, watch, or just about anything else that belongs to him. Boy, you’re with a woman. Let her be the cynosure of your eyes!
They are not gay but yet behave too feminine which most ladies feel lacking of manliness.
5. Desperate Guy
Are you desperate for girl? Keep looking at sexy ladies photos? or thinking about SEX?
This is one of the highest turn off for ladies whenever a man is acting desperately by being touchy and fidgety towards her.
Movies always portray an exaggerated version of the touchy guy. You don’t need to have sensitive nipples to be a touchy freely guy in real life. The worst part of being a touchy and fidgety guy is that most guys don’t know they’re that guy! unable to control their behavior and being dirty-minded.
Hello, please… you are not at night club! Do have some respect for the ladies and they will respect you too.
Always remember that most ladies would prefer and want a decent guy with clean mind, and not a fidgety and touchy guy. Don’t ever be touchy freely when you’re on a date, it can be annoying and at times, even creepy! In some cases, she will even beat you up as it is lack of respect. Thus, be appropriate when come to date with lady. It’s not your wife yet!
6. Highly Sensitive
Do you easily offended by word? feeling hurts? or always thinking that someone is talking about you?
According to research, as many as 1 in 5 people can be qualified as highly sensitive. And notice that the word I used there were“people,” as in human beings, of both sexes. Meaning that somewhere around 20% of men are highly sensitive.[Read: Are you a Sensitive Guy?]
Sensitive guys are usually a nice and caring guys who’ve listened to their mama, ladies and have learnt their manners. They respect all people. They’re very much in touch or understand with the feminine side inside of them, but they’ve been so rigorously trained on connecting with their feminine side that they’ve crossed the line and have gone way overboard. Thus, they became highly sensitive towards their own surrounding To be nasty, you felt that he’s behaving more like a woman rather than man.
The question goes: We are human and none of us is perfect, so why does ladies judge at him? To say a “No” to this guy can really kill him.
To what I know, a highly sensitive man requires more emotional comfort and attention, as they often easily hurt by words from peers or upset about little, really little things. Likewise to girl, they’re also known as an emotional animal, sensitive too. She can’t help to balance or support you emotionally because she is sensitive/ highly sensitive too. Soon or later, most of the conversation will end up with provokes.
7. Uncensored Honesty
At time, you can be really honest to speak your minds off without realizing the situation or occasion.
In a good way, you are just being honest and direct, having the intention not to hide anything from her. But just be wise in your words and be appropriate.
Here, I am not saying about being honest is wrong. My concern is more about how your date (she) would feel when you are being too honest or direct towards her.
For example, If she’s looking around while you’re talking, and you realize you need to change the topic of conversation, do it discreetly. Don’t ever say, “oh, you’re getting bored, aren’t you? You can tell me, I won’t mind…” or if you do not like her perfume smell, don’t your ever show out obviously or say ” What’s that smell?” with your gesture action meant that it’s stink. Unless you want your date to claw her nails into the leather of her seat or crawl her toes in awkward cringing desperation, avoid being a dumb guy by using all your uncensored truth.
Of course, you can be honest and direct if you’ve known her for long but not during the first or few meet up.
8. Fake Gentleman
No doubt, women always prefer a gentleman and expects those interested in her to approach in thoughtfulness and respects.
Hence, Any guys who wants to attract women will try to impress them in his own gentlemanly manner. For example: hold the door open for her, step aside in an elevator and ladies first, initiate to pay for the bill, help to carry heavy stuff for her…anyway…in summary, you are behaving like nice guy or good man.
Unfortunately, There are certain guy who tries to fake it out [Read: Difference between True & Fake Gentleman]
There’s a case when a guy went for a date – everything went so well and smooth, when it comes to the typical question “Will you be my girlfriend?” The girl said ” Let me think about it”. The guy went 360 degree attitude change. He became very upset with her given answer. Unable to accept that she still want to consider about it. In the end, the guy left the lady alone when walking her back home.
What will you do if you are that guy? or to be honest…. should a gentleman act this way? I can understand that it will be disheartened but nevertheless it is not a right to show your attitude. Indeed, If you’ve been faking being a gentleman, you probably unable to control as it is not genuine from your heart.
A true gentleman is one that demonstrate genuinely, regardless in what areas – it can be good or bad, he still will maintain their gentlemanly manner towards ladies.
9. Lack of Manners
Always in boorish behavior? Hot-tempered?
One of my friend, Marie asked me if she should dump the new guy she’s been seeing, because of his “manners lacking and temper issue”. As I get to understand more about that guy, I know exactly the reason why… He often use vulgar language in everything and anything – FXXK! What’s holding you up so late? in a way where she felt that she will be beaten anytime for little mistake, like being late for dating.
He is a secure man but somehow Marie felt that he is always behaving impolite towards her and others. She have tried to rectify him but the outcome is not very successful, he don’t think that he is in wrong or need any change.
Manner, manners. Girls like a guy who knows his manners. Now every guy should know his manners *though he should never push it and become the sensitive guy*. But that’s not it at all. There’s something even bigger. You should be man enough to apologize or accept that you’re wrong at times. No guy’s a bigger sore loser or a turn off than a guy who just can’t accept his fault, but would rather throw tantrums and make a fuss and pout like a four year old. Learn to man up and remember, accepting that you’ve made a mistake is not a sign of weakness.
No woman wants to be with a guy who constantly depresses her. We score when we manage to make women feel good, so if you put out a negative vibe, you’re likely not getting lucky.
10. Over Controlling
Bother about what she wear? with who? Are you control freak?
I have observed that one of the major turn off is when the man is overly-controlling. What’s most infuriating about these people is that they usually don’t see themselves as controlling–only right.
Controllers are often perfectionists. They may feel, “If you want something done right, you have to do it yourself.” Personally, I can relate to this, though I’m getting better at delegating. Controllers are also controlling with themselves. They may fanatically count carbs, become clean freaks or workaholics. Conventional psychiatry classifies extreme cases as Obsessive Compulsive Disorder–people are rigidly preoccupied with details, rules, lists, and dominating others at the expense of flexibility and openness.
Any woman will feel good to go out for dinner date with a man – but before the meet up, he orders you what to wear and the color to match. Moreover, during the meet up, he requires you to place the napkin nicely on yourselves, fussy about how the beef should be done – Medium well instead of Medium rare?. I believe, at that moment, you will have a run away urge as he is just being too weird to hang out with.
God has create man and woman differently – special and unique. So let that be.
But please…don’t invade her space! She have her rights to do what she wants and prefers.If you don’t give her enough space, you will eventually ended up on her turn off zone.
